How could they forget Pascal :/

I have no idea about podcasts. But since no one mentioned it yet, perhaps take a look at Funkwhale. It’s a decentralised platform, like Lemmy, for music and podcasts.

This is not true actually. There was a miss-interpreted study that calculated a lower average in working hours but that was because they didn’t consider that many women work part-time. Which lowered the average working hours.

When you look at households, though, the number of working hours is much higher. And that does have an influence.

I am an older person and I can still remember that my mother organised all social occasions of our family. We had big family gatherings regularly, coffee and cake every Sunday, activities in the local community and at schools, etc. This was all organised by the women who did not have jobs. Who is supposed to do all this today?

The influence of parenting is extremely overestimated. I think that is also a symptom of a society where people are reluctant to take on responsibility for themselves. Which is also a reason why people lack community because both (responsibility for oneself and functioning relationships) rely on introspection.

I think people focus way too much on romantic relationships. And many seem to see them as their lazy ticket out of loneliness.

If you want to improve social skills and alleviate loneliness people have to start and grow healthy communities, friendships and family bonds.

Capitalist thinking has reached interpersonal relationships. Instead of seeking community, people focus on how to optimise their dating market strategies and such. That’s pretty fucked up.

I think that’s also the reason why people lack interpersonal bonds. Investing into communities, friendships, relationships doesn’t fit into a world that is focused on linear progress and material gain. Applying this type of thinking (success, optimization, comparison, …) seems to lead mostly to resentment.

But community is not something you can teach, I think. You can facilitate it by providing opportunities for community building. Like the so called third place and enough time for people to get together casually.

Ultimately it’s something we inherit from generations before, though. And we only stray ever further from it. It’s in our hands now to do it in our lifes, online and in our neighborhoods etc.

When you have your own instance? No.

The Fediverse can not run out of money.

In theory, every user could host their own Fedi Instance and it would still be the Fediverse. As a community we should work towards enabling people to do just that by providing comprehensive and multilingual tutorials and support. If the big instances really do crash, for whatever reason, people would be prepared.

Also, smaller instances don’t cost much money. A simple Minecraft server is more expensive to host. At least when it comes to Lemmy. Obviously something like a Peertube instance can become expensive when you want other users to make their accounts on it.

Unfortunately, there are actually people like this.

“Transabled” is a term some people use that wish to be disabled. There were even cases of people who paid doctors illegally to amputate a limb or they hurt themselves.

“Transage” are people who believe they actually have a different age. For example they feel like they are really 13. Some of them use that to justify relationships with minors.

They try to piggyback on the trans movement and present mental acrobatics in a whole new dimension of fucked up to explain why they are supposedly similar to people who are trans. (Which they really obviously aren’t, I think that doesn’t need explaining.)

And you can bet on it that trolls and right wingers use these obscure group of mentally unwell people to attack LGBTQ people and movements.

Sadly not all of them are. I looked at the instance and clicked on a post where they share some book that collects “positive examples of grownup-child sexual relationships”. With a huge rabbit hole attached I won’t descend further into. This is legit some dark corner of the internet shit.

I wish people would inform themselves before they jump to conclusions. If you don’t want to look at the instance that’s fine and understandable (and probably for the best). But don’t make assumptions and try to immediately spread discord without even trying to look at what you are talking about first. Otherwise it is you who is fanning the flames of hatred.

They share links to pedophilic material, they have a “smash or pass” thread for lolis, openly discuss how sex with children “isn’t always harmful”, consider themselves “transage” and therefore as good partners for minors etc. etc.

The idea that there is only two options: do nothing or do 100 %, is a comfort zone. People who argue for personal responsibility argue that everyone should do as much as they can.

I think where this analogy falls short is that in reality it gets assumed everyone can lift the same if they just would give 100 %. And therefore one person always gets the blame since they are seemingly not giving enough.

Understanding how complex something is, is irriversible. Once you reach that plateau you will always know how much there is you don’t know.

I also feel better when I use less libraries, even if that may seem irrational sometimes.

I think part of the library craze stems from people who really only want to use the programming language as a tool to get fast results (which is legitimate, of course).

For example in academic contexts you have a lot of scientists who use R with a whole truckload of libraries, often unnecessarily. It reminds me of the plugin craze in the whole wordpress can of worms…

I think they didn’t mean how you structure your code but actually precision.

Should we ban all porn unless its of verified adults?

Erm, of course we should? Seriously? I wouldn’t want to accidentally run into that on Lemmy. In an ideal world we obviously should.

Do you verify everyone to be of age in all pornographic material you consume?

I do not consume pornographic material.

Let’s get back to what is discussed here. I never said we should ban all porn or whatever you try to twist my words into.

When a community allows amateur porn that can not be verified, as you state yourself, an instance or person who wants to make somewhat sure they aren’t seeing porn from or about minors should defederate from that instance. Or a user should ban that community. This is especially true if the community hosts “barely legal” porn.

You are asking for laws based on what you find morally acceptable

No, I am not. Wth?

How do you know they are verified adults? Just because someone on the internet posts a picture and says it is? I think it is absolutely warranted to put communities under intense scrutiny which accumulate such content.

Saying you need to protect yourself from this perverted filth is not really any different from what the right wing is doing to the LGBT community.

That’s an unfortunate exaggeration right? Not wanting to see or deal with communities who feel it’s sexually enticing to look at “childlike” and “barely 18” porn is clearly different from wanting gay, trans and queer people to stop existing.

I think with privacy some people associate the collection and using of private data to create user profiles for advertising and algorithms. While you can see IP, votes etc. as an admin (the same goes for other forums including Reddit, btw), at the moment there is no huge company behind Lemmy which collects sensitive data about it’s users.