This is very location dependent. I live in India and an hour of therapy session costs around 15$(average bill if two people eat at a normal restaurant to put things into perspective).

If you can’t afford that, don’t worry as many not for profit organisations exist which will help you with free therapy. But this comes at the cost of therapists who themselves are paid like shit. But none of this applies to my friends because their job is ready to pay(your boss can’t find out you go to therapy btw) in case they want therapy but they still are hesitant. It’s more to do with how people will perceive you if they hear you’re going to therapy.

Most of my friends who have tried therapy just leave after a session or two and claim their problems have gone away, dodge further sessions and never actually gave it a real try. Then a week later they will go through the same issues again. It sucks to see them this way… I’ve tried to help them to go to therapy consistently but very few actually do.

You can’t solve 20 years worth of emotional issues in a few sessions… it takes years of therapy to actually get better. Not to mention societal stigma against going to therapy makes it even harder.

Learning JavaScript for the frontend is an absolute must! Learn basics of modern js and then start learning c# or java for backend. These languages are great for starting out, have a big community of tools and people which will help you immensely and not to mention tons of job opportunities.

After that you can pick up some fe library like vue.js (personally i think it’s the best most intuitive. Saying that as a react dev).

Start building out as you learn tho. Don’t wait to complete learning. A simple note taking app with a good FE and a backend with features like auth and a sql db to store data will give you much more learning than tutorials.

Fuck! Now it makes sense to me. I thought it literally meant an interface. Thanks a lot for clarifying!

My answer is going to be a bit different but this is what worked for me. I tried many courses, reading books, trying to code etc but never quite understood data structures. I used to get bored halfway.

What worked for me is literally solving problems. I would pickup a data structure. Implement it in Java on my own with help from internet. Then i would solve 10 problems on it. Then move to next data structure. Once you have familiarity with most used data structures like stack, queue, maps, linked lists, arrays, trees, etc. then it’s time to move to algorithms like graphs, better sorting techniques, etc.

I have to agree with you on the over engineering and layers of abstraction which stop making sense over time. At the same time I’ve seen people abusing the application context and try to reinvent the wheel in a worse way rather than using easy to read annotations. People care less about doing it the right way. Many who care about doing it the right way but don’t understand things well, go so far off the deep end that we end up with unnecessary abstractions.

Java is a great language but since most people work with it and most people don’t give a shit about best practices, we see messy java code everywhere. It’s an easy language to write shit code in.

It’s really interesting… i gave it a shot a few days back. You’ve to follow stuff or hashtags you’re interested in for things to show up… after that take it slow and follow more things… I’ve found some really good music playlists, art, programming discussions on there. There’s also an explore section which shows trending topics and posts. I can recommend it as the users are mature and in my experience not toxic.